Have you ever had someone mistreat you physically, spiritually, or emotionally?
Have you ever had someone tell you if you’d just been a better wife none of it would’ve happened?
Have you ever had someone say to you that it must not have been that bad or you wouldn’t have been so in love with him?
The thing with abuse is it happens way more than we know, and sometimes the abuser has been raised with so much abuse that it’s so normal to them, that they wouldn’t consider it “abuse”.
That never makes it right.
It also never makes it YOUR fault that they’re abusing you.
One thing abusers do to try to justify their behavior is blame it on you, the victim. If you’d just been, “...X, Y, or Z... they wouldn’t have done it.”
This is so false.
Abusers must and will take accountability for their own actions, as everyone on earth is an agent of themselves.
What you can do as the victim is be an agent for YOURSELF. You can find healing and recovery.
It is NOT your fault.
It is NEVER okay.
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