Thursday, March 31, 2016
Chill time 1 hour
1 tbsp cinnamon
1 teaspoon ginger (I didn't have the produce, so I used the spice)
3 cloves (use ground cloves if possible)
1/4 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/4 C oats
1/4 C chia seeds
2 tbsp coconut oil
2 tbsp coconut flour
Prep time: 5 min (or less)
Chill time: a couple hours. I let mine chill over night and me and my toddler went to town on it at 7:21am. No joke. Hey. She slept through the night !!! That deserves a treat....for both of us:)
Two and a half tablespoons of coconut oil.
And two and a half tablespoons liquid sweetener of choice. Warm in the microwave if you have to, until all is liquefied and stir smooth. Voila!
I used a small tray but you can use candy molds if you want, then chill in the fridge.
Wednesday, March 30, 2016
"Most of what God requires us to do in this life is out of courtesy to others. Sometimes, it means doing something we didn't want to, or giving up something we did want, to help someone else. It doesn't matter if we are the most successful, talented, or liked, human being, if we are not courteous to those around us."
Week 13: a trial you have overcome.
This 52 Weeks of Gratitude is significantly helping me focus on how blessed I am, instead of how stressed I am. That, in and of itself, is a trial I'm overcoming!! However, I want to pick one rather personal. Instead of going into detail, I'll highlight the main point.
You've heard me talk about my behavior towards people I find tiresome. There is a person I know who has given me grief for some time. They've lied to me, offended me. Hurt my feelings. Been rude to everyone around them, stomping their feet to get what they want. Pretty much just been awful, in every avenue. I've had a rough time being forgiving and compassionate towards them. I have attended the temple (LDS) several times, each time being prompted to add their name to the prayer roll. I kept thinking, well, obviously that means this person needs help. Deep down, I want to want to help them. But as of now, I can only want God to help them. So I put their name on the prayer roll and went on my way. I finally came to realize just now, week 13 of 2016, that I was not putting their name down for their same, but for my own! I was being taught a very important lesson each time I was prompted to write down that person's name.
The lesson was this : you don't have to like them. You don't have to like what they do. But you do have to love them the way Jesus would. And be courteous in your actions !
I immediately thought of all the rude things I'd said or done (no, I'm not a backstabber, but I did remark on my dislike of this person often) or I would just ignore them altogether. I felt bad about it. My level of resentment towards their unkind demeanor lifted. I felt sorry for them, instead of angry. My trial I overcame was compassion and forgiveness for people who don't ask for it even after being a rotten human. Lets face it, I have been rotten at times. It just takes others longer to realize that they are not being good. Maybe they never will? Who knows. It doesn't matter because I am only in charge of myself, and it has made me much happier to be content with the person I was struggling to tolerate. I'm at peace, knowing they may never change, or befriend me, or care about my ups and downs, or stop doing all of that to everyone else they come in contact with. I understand that they live in a bit of misery, some of it self induced, some of it I have no idea. And I can feel sorry for their misery and perhaps be a light for them, instead of another bitter person to come and go. I feel renewed and strengthened.
I call that success!! And a magnificent blessing and a miracle and the hand of my Heavenly Father at work.
Monday, March 28, 2016
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Monday, March 21, 2016
(Spring is here. Eeeee!)
So we are on week 12 of the 52 weeks of gratitude Challenge and this week's prompt is your favorite personality trait! Haha...
Well, my go to is usually humor, but since I chose that under 5 things i like about myself, I'm going to go with my second option which is my "air of confidence". I'm not talking about thinking I'm super sexy. Although I'd call myself sexy in my yoga pants, with soggy breast pads and baby barf down my leg....oh, yeah baby. No, I mean my confidence in life. I pride myself on being centered, and knowing how to go about my business in a kind and calm manner. 99% of the time.
"Rudeness is the weak person's imitation of strength."
We all know those rude people, the ones that don't know how to go about their business kindly, or who pretty much can't do anything nice. They use rudeness to bully people, or to get their way. It is most certainly an imitation of strength. They are horribly insecure individuals. I also pride myself on not being insecure. I'm very self-assured. 99% of the time.
I know who I am, where I came from, where I'm going, and how I'm going to get there= God. Heavenly Father. His Son. That is my everything, and I try to revolve my life around it entirely. Because of that, I avoid anyone or anything that will threaten my potential, be a negative/rude camaraderie, or just put a roadblock in my way. That is why I chose this quote to go along with this week.
"Weak people revenge.
Strong people forgive.
Intelligent people ignore."
Not only did I laugh out loud but it couldn't be MORE TRUE for who I am....AND NOW YOU KNOW WHY I IGNORE YOU;););)
Onward, ever onward. Press forward ever on to serve our King.
Happy Monday y'all
Saturday, March 19, 2016
Thursday, March 17, 2016
Half cup bread crumbs of choice
About 2 tbsp dried cilantro
Dash of black pepper
Dash of garlic salt
Wednesday, March 16, 2016
Tuesday, March 15, 2016
Easter is approaching and I am looking for ways to incorporate Christ more into my day to day life.
I read a wonderful talk tonight with a wonderful message about seeing one another through our parents' eyes. (it can be found on lds.org titled: It isn't about you, but what God can do through you.)
It really amazed me. I do understand it isn't about me or my talents. It is about how I use them for God's purposes. It doesn't matter if I'm the best singer in the world if I'm not using my gift to testify of Christ. My attitude also won't help me help others or love them if I can't see them how my Heavenly Father sees them. Especially people I find trying.
So. As stated, I am going to "beg" for the ability to love my neighbors the way a parent would love their child. Even the buggers:) I will pray to be filled with humility and see if I can draw closer to them, despite their untoward actions. It will be great !!! I can't wait for Easter, y'all.
Hoppy Easter comings!!
Monday, March 14, 2016
Someone Who Inspires You.
I picked several people in my post on Instagram. Including MY HUSBAND. Both of my sisters, Jeffrey R. Holland, and my friend Erik. However, I decided for my blog post I was going to include one more crucial person...ME!
I inspire myself? Why, yes. I do. Here is why: I am a better person today than I was yesterday.
I'm growing into this thing called womanhood, and I'm realizing that my confidence is taking me great places. Yeah, I have the occasional doubt, but for the most part, my confidence is rock solid. I know what I've got, what I'm not and who I am. (Those are lyrics from the song I walked down the aisle too) I have realized that happiness is a choice. Duh. But one you have to literally make daily, despite and in spite of everything else. It isn't about your adversity, but how you react to it, that matters. The truth is, being a confident woman is different than being a loud woman, an arrogant woman, a "sexy" woman, or a successful woman. In fact, possessing confidence has little to do with any of those. I love this quote, Confidence is silent. Insecurity is loud.
When I see insecure women, I am reminded of the insecure girl I used to be. Loud. Boastful. Obnoxiously self centered. The majority of my conversations were about myself, bragging about the good and exaggerating the bad. I know a few women like this and I actually feel sad when I'm around them because it is a reminder that I once lived in that insecure realm, and that a lot of women can't break free of it. It's interesting that we should characterize people by their actions, not their words. Because people can, and will, say anything. In the right moment, they use the right words. But do they do the right thing?
Okay, so I still have a bad habit of talking about myself...on my blog...and in person...and in text...because I'm a writer and that's what we do. Nonetheless, my attitude has morphed from even last year till now. I have eliminated most of my big insecurities and have only a few self doubts left, most of them about motherhood. I almost can't be around deeply insecure people. I am scarcely tolerate them for a few minutes. Why? I don't like to live in remembrance of my own past insecurities. They bring me down. Its annoying. Yada yada. They are people who will say anything, but rarely do good. Their actions are negative while they flounce around chattering glittery remarks. It fools only the fool. A person can say nice things, in general, or to me, but if they act rudely, even towards other people, I cannot find it in my heart to call them a friend. (unless it is PMS time...you get 1 free Get Out Of Jail card...1!!) Usually these people make it a habitual problem...they are insecure. It was me, 6 years ago.
I inspire myself because I saw that unfit, sad little girl in a 20-something year old body and I told her, Snap out of it! Plus, I was going to be a mom and I knew how I was going to raise my children...to be Kings and Queens! To know their value and their worth. So, I thought, I ought to know my own. You know what? I don't care how many wrinkles I have. The only time I notice them is when that one insecure girl starts blabbing about how much botox she gets done. I don't care about my gray hairs until I go to work and do hair for a living, and have beautiful people sit in my chair all day and tell me they feel ugly with gray hair. I'm a cosmetoglist and I can and will tell you, THE COLOR OF YOUR HAIR IS NOT WHAT MAKES YOU BEAUTIFUL. Maybe it makes you feel pretty, and can prefftify you in some superficial way (which is fine...in moderation) but beauty has to originate some place else. The heart. The mind. The soul. I don't care about my muffin top until girls who have had babies complain about losing their 6 pack. I LOOOVE to work out and consider myself a fit girl. Do I do it for others? Or to look good in a bikini? Nah. I do it for myself and my health. My wellth! I don't care about looking or acting or being a younger more Hollywood-ized version of myself because, I will quote one of my fav songs played on Christian radio, "I don't need my name in lights, I'm famous in my Father's eyes." He knows my name. I had it all once, and every opportunity. I'm so glad I did not follow that path. Fame is not my game.
My ultimate goal in life is to be secretly incredible. Isn't that beautiful? Secretly incredible, like Christ. A sincere, confident, loving person who was quiet and meek by nature. Hated, unfortunately, but only by those who lacked. As I grow closer to this goal, I recognize some of that antagonistic behavior from people who maybe lack the confidence. I wish I was strong enough to be their friend and support my own, but I'm not...so I kinda just act like they don't exist. But maybe next year I'll be better and be able to carry my load and theirs. I will make it a goal to eliminate remaining bad behaviors of mine, including insecurities I have about failing as a mother or wife. Knowing my old bad behaviors has made it easier and more painful to spot the bad behaviors in others. I'm still searching for the magic cure that can 1. Help them and 2. Help me be okay with them while they are being helped.
I inspire me because I know my worth and I only feel lesser when the world tells me I am. When I shut out that voice, and put all my focus on my eternal plan, I am stupidly happy. One day I will not even hear the world's voice. I am a daughter of God. (who loves us and we love Him...YW Pledge) I know why I was sent here, what I am to do, and what my potential is in the afterlife. It is Crystal clear, no worldly femoral mortal clouds confusing me anymore. Sorry, New York...you aren't in my stars.but happily ever after is!!
I inspire me because I see my own beauty in my eyes. And I don't care who finds me "physically" beautiful anymore. No amount of physical change covers up insecurity. None. And I am in the business of physical change, trust me. I've seen it all. The most insecure people I know have changed everything about themselves and indulge in every cosmetic/surgical change available to their budget. And they're still not happy. Self love comes from a deeper place than surgery and fillers and hair color. Sometimes those can boost your confidence for a minute, but you have to get to your roots and weed out the bigger problem. (step 4 from the ARP)
I inspire me because I have given up my own plans for God's plan for me, and it feels great. Hard, but great. The blessings are much richer and longer lasting. Its so obvious now, and in my bad behavior way, I point out the ways other people have lost sight of God's plan for them. It is why they are unhappy or lost, or why they haven't met certain goals (marriage, children, jobs, life, etc) It is why they are stuck in their bad behaviors and insecurities. (one of mine is pin pointing those....ugh!!! K I'll put that on my list too)
We are all beautiful creatures and this week has inspired me to inspire me more!! Haha...be happy everyone !
Monday, March 7, 2016
Week 10 folks!!!!!
Can you believe it?
Wow. Spring is just around the corner and I am LOVIN this weather.
So, this week in the 52 weeks of Gratitude challenge is to name 5 things you like about yourself.
1. My hair
2. My teeth
3. My humor
4. My talents
5. My eyes
Stupid I know, most of them are physical traits. Its hard to pick stuff about yourself you love!! Number 4 is my favorite, though, because it's a broader term that covers the MAJORITY of what I love about myself :) I have some pretty cool talents that, when nurtured, set me apart and bring me much joy and happiness. I know God's blessed me with specific gifts to help others and I aim to do so. I do love my eyes, I get complimented on them almost daily from a stranger. I also get complimented on my teeth (which I hated almost my whole life, but now I love them so SUCK IT girl from 6th grade who made fun of me) te he.. Oh, and I now get compliments on my hair because it grew a bunch and I'm basically a glippie which is a glam hippie, because I never wash or style it and somehow people love it. Cool beans. Lastly, my humor. Aw, yes. I'm the funniest person I know. Go figure. And that's it for week 10!! See you next week.
Thursday, March 3, 2016
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Wednesday, March 2, 2016
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Sigh...it's been a long morning and I ran out of Mountain Dew. I've been in a great mood, however. This morning was just like every other morning, except my daughter slept in until almost 7! Of course, my son woke her up with his fussing. But I love having them join me in bed. I wanted to capture the moment because it was funny to me and I know one day I'll look back and giggle. Except not today. Because I'm still trying to figure out what to do with my tempurpedic mattress topper...
Tuesday, March 1, 2016
Week 8 and 9 of the 52 weeks of gratitude challenge! Week 8 was express gratitude to 3 people and week 9 was log how you did and felt.
I will admit, I chickened out. I only expressed gratitude to 1 person. I guess I'm not very good at it when it isn't in the moment. Other than saying thank you to people at the store, or someone who opens a door for me, I found it difficult to go out of my way and tell someone why I was grateful for them.
However, I do understand the importance of gratitude and hopefully I make up for it every night when I pray and express gratitude to my Heavenly Father for all He has blessed me with. I also know that living a life without gratitude will lead to a life of depression. The most depressed human beings I know show very little gratitude. In fact, there is a commonality with grumpy behavior and entitlement. People who are miserable are very consumed with themselves and often feel little gratefulness. I have noticed that people who are particularly picky have forgotten how blessed they really are.
Just a random example. Someone might be superbly picky about their food. It might be cold, or not cut right, or it just didn't satisfy them. What you will come to know is that no food will satisfy them. They will eat a very fine meal and always find something wrong with it. They have forgotten how to be grateful for food. They are so worried about themselves they don't remember that much of the world has very little to eat. Cold or hard or chewy.
Another example would be someone who constantly points out the negative side of every circumstance. I used to be guilty of this and I'm sure I still slip up now and then, but I have made big efforts to change because I became really annoyed with people who only see the negative. It could be a beautiful sunny day outside, spent with family and loved ones, and a negative person will say, I forgot my sunglasses. I don't want to be here. Or whatever. You get the point. They will point out silly stupid things just to ruin a moment. They have forgotten that some,l countries are plagued with war. Some countries do not have the freedoms we have. Some places it is not even safe to be outdoors and a negative person will complain about the sunshine!?
The truth is, the more blessed we become, the more petty our complaints become. The ugly truth is, the more petty we are the more opportunities God provides for us to be humbled. Now, a negative person would choose to believe this means they live a hard life, or that God is picking on them in some way. They will claim the victim and go on living more bitter than before. They don't see how simple it is to be humble, to be grateful, and to overcome those obstacles. Because once you have been refined, God has little need to "refine" you further. It is ironic.
When you forget to be humble and grateful, your life is steered by misery, selfishness, and depression. You cannot find joy in even tiny things, because you are so worried about finding things wrong with your life. I always want to improve on this and hope I can get better and be a good example to my children. Being grateful brings you closer to Christ and helps you live a happier more fulfilling life. It is a skill and takes time to develop, but anyone and EVERYONE should do it.