First, I've cut way back on social media. My private FB and private Instagram aren't in use. My public figure pages get very little usage so I apologize if you don't hear from me often. I don't plan on picking them back up anytime soon. I would rather return to my blog and just post the most important things for now.
Funny things: Travin is almost two. He's a big wild and brave boy. He even watched his big sister jump off the trampoline into the grass and thought he could follow. Bless his sister's heart, Atley encouraged him by saying "I'll catch you!" Trav then jumped and landed right on his face in the grass 😃 No worries. All is well.
Atley is very excited to be "almost four and then I'll be five!" We opted out of preschool this year but she does "school" at home with me. She's sweet and always so helpful.
Both kids are SUPER excited to have a baby brother that joined us four and a half weeks early!
We named him Tosh.
Tosh looks like a perfect mixture of the other two kids as infants. He's teeny and precious. The labor was a dream. It was twelve hours total, required a couple hours of pitocin, but was smooth sailing. I feel like a queen but ask me again in a few weeks haha...
Nothing brings me more satisfaction than being a mother. I'm so so happy right now.
We remodeled our kitchen this year and it is gorgeous!
Lots of home updates and new appliances.
We are gearing up for a busy fall with a half dozen birthdays, Thankagiving, then Christmas!
Oh and Atley has decided she wants to be a vampire for Halloween, but that could change.
I'm still working on editing my book 3 in my Conquest of Canaan series. I wanted it out by this November but I don't know if I'll make it! Crossing my fingers. I really love this trilogy and am so pleased with the response I get from my readers. Hope you love the last book as much as I do.
The time has come. I'm saying goodbye to my favored social media app, Instagram.
The reasons don't matter much, but in case you're curious or ever read this I'll break it down.
1. I have a loud mouth. It gets me in trouble. Sometimes people don't read my sarcasm and I offend them unintentionally. Case in Point my recent "story". If it offended you, I sincerely apologize. It wasn't meant to hurt. I am sorry to all the people and their fake breasts or lips or noses. I have lots of friends who have artificial enhancements and I in no way think less of them. My point was more to make humor of the hypocrisy people who love chemical free and animal cruelty free lives face when they then go get fake injections, but of course I am a hypocrite also and love plenty of fake things. Again, I'm sorry.
I would like to add that I have and always will be part of the crowd that believes humans are BEAUTIFUL the way they come and age and grow. I have sworn off artificial enhancements for myself for this reason. Because I would be a hypocrite to tell people they're beautiful the way they are, and then go get surgery to fix my knee fat that I hate. Some of us truly believe in the way we come and I'm a "naturalist" (99% of the time) I want all my friends to know that. It's a belief. I love small and big breasts, naturally large noses, scars, burns, etc. I love wrinkles and gray hairs. I've even tried growing my own hair out except that my talent agency requires my hair to look like my headshot. So that's me being a hypocrite, too.
The truth is I think society has attacked the beauty of life, in every sense. People pay the price but more so women than men. Women are torn apart and beaten down and told that they aren't beautiful if they don't look a certain way. There is an "image" of beauty. Who decided that? Who chose what is pretty or sexy or attractive, and WHY?! Why one look, one size, one color? Why a certain combination of the above? I have never understood it...and it pains me. When I think of my daughter being so insecure with herself because of society, I ache. Of course I want her AND EVERYONE to feel confident. We all deserve so. I want people to be confident the way they are, the way God made them. Whatever size shape color and age.
In the end, I stand firm behind my belief that humans don't need to change to be or feel beautiful, but I understand not everyone feels that way.
2. I've long felt like I need to set an example for my kids.
Would I want them spending the time I do on social media? Do I think it's a positive or uplifting activity? Do I want them posting the things I post?
3. On the other side of number 1, I see my own values take a beating on social media. I view it as a way for people to express themselves and try hard to let it roll off my back. My religion is always made fun of. (That's because your religion is so judgemental)
People, like you and I, are judgmental. Not a religion.
Thinking that is just as judgmental as the comments I made.
Being a mother is looked down upon by a lot of children-less people. Even working moms (which I was and still am if you consider my self employment) make fun of "stay at home moms". You know, its life...and we are all insensitive on days that end in Y.
4. I am an extrovert and on particular weeks, considering my husband travels so much for work, I'll go days without speaking to another adult. I'm starving for adult conversation and interaction. I feel pathetically alone sometimes. These is when I get in trouble and run my mouth.
5. In support of my naturalist ways, I want to revert to the old days when we called and sent cards. Do I believe the increase in virtual activity decreases a humans natural social behaviors? Yes. Im sorry if that's offensive. I think virtual interactions can lead to diminished/appropriate in-person social conduct. I think social media leads to increased idealism, increased chances of infidelity, a lack of basic social skills, an increase in bullying, and bloats the uprise of the attack on peoples' bodies as mentioned in number 1. I apologize if that hurts your feelings. It doesn't mean there isn't good to be found online, I just think the bad makes it not worth it for me in my life. If I want to set an example for my kids, I best start now. (And try my hardest not to be a hypocrite for their sake)
I'm asked frequently if I have a Facebook. I understand this is how people communicate now. Send wedding invites, birthday invitations, etc.. To answer your question in short? NO. To answer your question in length, Yea there is a profile "active" under my name.
No, I don't use Facebook,
No, I won't be accepting friend requests.
The profile is active for one reason: My talent agency has an exclusive page where they post audition and casting info, and all their talent is required to be on it. (Hypocrite? Yes...I'm sorry.)
So there you have it.
I don't know if this is permanent or temporary, because I honestly LOVE taking pictures and am obsessed with posting updates about my kids. But I know the time has come.
I love my friends and followers and hope to keep from offending you in the future.
You know, I recognize things can be taken out of context. I have children. I love them. I don't always have a babysitter. Do I understand it might come off insensitive to ask people not to bring children to their hair appointment? Yes. Do I expect them to understand the following:
I can't concentrate with lots of kids running around. I even find babysitters for my own (99% of the time)
It's in the kids' best interest. I have hot and sharp tools. My salon area is not kid friendly.
My tools are also expensive. If they get broken I'm pretty sure the parent won't be happy having to replace them.
I want to give my clients the best possible service. I want them to have the best haircut and color and relax. That is hard for both of us if kids are present.
Do I make exceptions? Yep.
But I will still always ask the client to please try to make arrangements, just as I do for my own kids.
That scenario can be offensive to many.
I'm sure this post even offended someone....gah! I can't ever win.
I really do withhold judgments the best I can. If I make a rude comment, I'll apologize for it, and try to be better.
My intention is to love and live a Christlike life.
For me it includes less social media.
I decided to fill out an online questionnaire. Sorry if it's generic...I copied and pasted it!! But thought it would be a fun change to my usual Friday Introductions on Instagram. So here we go!
Who were you with yesterday? My kids until 10:30, then the neighbors What woke you up this morning? My son Where are you? In the bathtub 😝 Is tomorrow going to be a good day? It will be the day I make it Do you like anybody? Oh my gosh I'm not 12. I like a few people Ever thrown up in public? Ha! Yes many times Passed out because of alcohol? Yes What’s on your mind RIGHT NOW? My aching belly and the fear that the rest of these questions are for teenage Myspacers What kind of home would you like? A white stucco red Spanish roof tile rambler. What do you want to be when you grow up? My own hero Where do you see yourself in 5 years? A mother of three fabulous children with a trip planned to Africa
What is your favorite color? GreenDo you listen to music every day? Yes Do you still go trick or treating? With my kids What was the last thing you ate? Chocolate decadence with salted caramel Are you a fast typer? 118 WPM Whats your favorite type of soda? Mt Dew Have you ever moved? Bunch Have you ever won an award? A few. Never bingo Are you listening to music right now? Nope How long ’till your birthday? Seven months When were you the saddest in your whole life? March 2009
What do you wish the world had more of? Jesus Christ
What is your favorite way to burn steam? Exercise like a BAMF
What is your occupation? Cosmetologist, author, performance artist
Have you ever heard a song written about you? Yes What do you do when you’re mad? Work out or cook Do you swear when you’re mad? Less than I used to When was the last time you actually cried? 4:13pm today What usually makes you cry? Besides being pregnant??? Are you usually a happy person? I'm mellow if that counts What makes you the happiest? My kids Do you believe in yourself? More than anyone else
What is your favorite hobby? Creating. Writing, music or novels
Favorite song? Ever??? Hallelujah by Jeff Buckley. Christian: The Great I Am
Do you have any bad habits? Anxiety
What is something unique about you? Uhh...I have bright green/yellow eyes??
What's one of your favorite things about yourself? My air of confidence
Least favorite thing about yourself? My anxiety
Do you believe in God? Yes
What do you hope to contribute to the world? Strength
Which celebrity are you most like? Rick from the Walking Dead?? Haha. If that counts..he's a character so if a real life celebrity than Emma Stone.
What's your favorite movie? Gaaaaaah how to pick?? All time: Pretty Woman. Lately? Rogue One
Do you miss people? Every day
What did you do today? Raised my kids. Ran errands. Went to the temple and out to eat with my husband. Bubble bath.
If you could give one piece of advice to people what would it be? Get up, dress up, show up. You got this.
review of Conquest of Canaan: Og by Brittany Shannon
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CONQUEST OF CANAAN: OG
This is certainly a very unique approach to an epic biblical narrative as it follows the lives of three young friends as they experience the conquest of Canaan within the ranks of the rising Israelite nation. Historic fiction based in a biblical setting is very rarely done and the last of a notable work of this kind was perhaps Ben-Hur (1959). For that reason, this work holds a level of originality and freshness that could surprise even those very familiar with biblical narratives. Even the characters involved possess an unusual level of realism and uniqueness that is not often present along this vein of storytelling and the use of first person narration is incredibly engaging in the opening chapters. That being said, while this narrative certainly provides a very fresh approach to biblical storytelling, popular trends have already begun to shift away from epic biblical adventures. Since the making of Noah (2014) the success of other biblical adaptations has depreciated in both value and quality. Exodus: Gods and Kings later on in 2014, Risen in 2016, and Ben-Hur at the end of 2016 all failed to accumulate the enthusiasm the studios hoped for, which ultimately diverted all interest away from this kind of storytelling. Until interests and quality are once again raised to the level that an epic biblical narrative deserves, it is very unlikely that producers and studios would be willing to invest in a story like the one submitted here, at least for the time being.
You know me. You've heard my voice. You've seen my posts.
Or you have absolutely no idea who I am.
I'll give you a little clue: I'm a stay-at-home mother, now. With a long list of credentials behind me, I accepted my divine calling and had two children back to back, with a third on the way!! I'm delighted to be able to continue two of my passions, writing and doing hair, which I can do from my home.
I've published two novels and do hair part-time. This brings me a great joy, but understand that most of my time is spent devoted to rearing up my children in truth and light. That's my number one priority.
Besides that, my passions include all spectrums of ART.
I've grown up in the performance arts.
I like to paint, take pictures, make vlogs.
I LOVE singing, dancing, and acting.
I've done all of the above since I could walk.
I began writing at eighteen, after graduating cosmetology school.
I spent a decade as a very successful cosmetologist, and then decided to stay home with my children and pursue my writing career.
With a bit of acting under my belt, I've also decided to rebirth my acting skills and take some acting classes. Hopefully, by the time my children are in school and I have a lot of free time, I can get some auditions! That would be a dream.
In the meantime, my third novel and the final installment in my Conquest of Canaan series will come out this winter. Yay!
I have another series you guys will DIE over, and it will soon be ready for publication when I finish up this winter. Super exciting stuff.
Yep I'm one of those nerds who likes "it all". Honestly, it probably means I'm not fantastic at any one thing, but I'm fairly at several, and I'm thankful every day for my talents and blessings.
(Just don't ask me to do math)
I'm so ecstatic to freshen up my performer's resume and see where this new journey takes me. I'm happy to get back to some of my passions, including giving birth to my third child this September. WAHOO! After publishing all of my books, and squeezing in some acting classes, I plan on finishing up all the novels as screenplays, submitting them to production companies, and then composing the film score for Conquest of Canaan. Yep, I also write music...needs some growth, but hey, I'm always up for learning.
I've not been quiet about my feelings on social media, namely Facebook. (Nothing personal to The founder)
It has been apparent to me that technology, while offering so much good, offers--also--so much evil. And the more people entertain themselves with it, the more desensitized they become. Example: movies seem more appropriate, music isn't as bothersome, it's now four hours a day on Facebook instead of twenty minutes. Etc.
I have read a LIFE CHANGING book by David A Bednar, titled Increase in Learning. I highly recommend it. Every word in this book was absent in my youth, and had I known of these things, I would have made very different choices. Not that I regret my life. That's for another blog post. Today I want to focus on Bendar's comments on the evil of technology, specifically the time dwelling on it instead of in real life, and how it is a misuse of our physical bodies as temples of God.
"A simulation or model can lead to spiritual impairment and danger if the fidelity is high and the purposes are bad--such as experimenting with actions contrary to God's commandments or enticing us to think or do things we would not otherwise think or do 'because it is only a game.'
I raise an apostolic voice of warning about the potentially stifling, suffocating...impact some kinds of cyberspace interactions and experiences have on our souls. I plead with you to be aware of the sense-dulling and spiritually destructive influence of cyberspace technologies that are used to produce high fidelity and that promote degrading and evil purposes.
Please be careful of becoming so immersed in and engrossed in pixels, texting, earbuds, twittering, online social networking, and potentially addictive uses of media and the Internet that you fail to recognize the importance of your physical body and miss the richness of person to person communication.
Progressively, seemingly innocent entertainment can become a form of pernicious enslavement.
I am not suggesting all technology is inherently bad; it is not. But I am raising a warning voice that we should not squander and damage authentic relationships by obsessing over contrived ones. 'Nearly 40% of men and 53% of women who play online games said their virtual friends were equal to or better than their real life friends.' -a recent survey of 30,000 gamers.
I implore you to turn away immediately from such places and activities.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. Does the use of various technologies and media invite or impede the constant companionship of the Holy Ghost in your life?
2. Does the time you spend using various technologies and media enlarge or restrict your capacity to live, love, and to serve in meaningful ways?"
For me, when I read these questions, particularly number one, I was astonished. This is exactly why several years ago I deactivated my private Facebook account. For me, is was impeding the spirit in my life. I find it amazing, a miracle really, that I had received personal revelation for my life regarding social media, before reading this book. I know it's a powerful tool in today's market. Social Media Marketing is A Thing!! It's a job position! But it is not for me, not even recreationally. I have even immensely limited my time on my one social media platform, and keep it abnormally private. I am trying to safe guard it, and my life, and the spirit I want in my life.
I've also always been somewhat offended by people who only contact me on Facebook. They only message me or invite me places through Facebook. They throw bridal showers or birthday parties through Facebook. I am hurt that picking up a phone and calling, a step beyond texting, is so rare. It means so much to me. I loath the use of Facebook these days, and I know for me in my life it was imperative I get off--and stay off--that virtual world.
It is a huge turn off to me when I meet someone obsessed with their phone. Who really knows what they're doing on it!? I had a coworker once who I thought would make an ideal friend...until, several weeks after they were hired and our friendship began, I realized their severe addiction to their phone. I mean they were ALWAYS nose deep in their phone. This person said they were "working" or checking "Facebook" or on "Periscope" or "networking", always valid excuses for the virtual user, but to me it all said: I DONT CARE ABOUT INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS.
It was so sad to me and honestly I could NOT make a friendship go further. I cannot connect with or get to know, trust, love, and serve someone who is stuck in their virtual reality. I try. Call it a weakness of mine. I struggle a lot with being patient and understanding with these people. This person fit the bill of David A Bednar's words of losing touch and spending so much time in an unreal world.
I've gotten into arguments with people before who were very offended by ME because I deleted them from "friends" lists. It was as if I told them I hated them, because we couldn't be friends on Facebook or Instagram. It was such a confusion to me, because if you don't call, text, visit, send birthday cards. Or even know my favorite color, how can you call me a friend?? What then is the purpose of a social media connection? Nothing good, I can tell you that. It is nothing personal or malicious to delete a "friend", I simply protect my life and want people who really truly love me to be the ones involved. I never want to get wrapped up in the popularity contest. I want people to care about me OUTSIDE of virtual reality.
Lastly, I knew when it got to a point where I would snap at my kids for interrupting me, when I was doing something on my phone, even answering an email, I knew it was time to refocus. I know compared to past generations I am still on my phone a lot, too much. I hope to continue getting better and despite trends focus on what matters. Real life.
I thank David A Bednar for this book, and ALL of the information I read that I have missed out on all these years. I hope you find time to read it!